You know you're a narcissist if...
Most everything you see is a reflection of
yourself
Most everything you say is related to yourself
Most everything you read comes back around to
yourself
Most everything you write contains more “I”s than “we”s or any other pronoun
Everything in the universe is organized
around you with constant reminders of that
Everything you express is infused with entitlement,
however unrecognized
Your needs come first and foremost.
There are countless narcissists in this world,
and the only surprise lies not in their banality but when something is not about them.
I had a frightening but revealing dream recently which the video below relates to. It's synchronicity that I found it soon after my dream.
I've had only a few scary dreams in my life, but this dream had me quite scared and desperate to get away. I dreamt that I suddenly realized that my former sweetheart, whom I was visiting, was a vampire, and I learned I was the only one who didn't know it. In the dream I had the sense that he was the kind of person to suck the life out of anyone who cared for him. A couple of years ago I realized he is a narcissist. One evening, early in our affair, he had a lack of self-awareness -- or a slip of the tongue -- and freely shared with me that his ex-wife, who had studied psychology, diagnosed him as a narcissist, and he chuckled when he told me. I, naturally, thought she didn't understand him, but turns out she was correct. According to Dr. Orloff in the video below, narcissists lack an emotional chip. My guy often professed to being confused about figuring out how to satisfy another person's (or mine, as the case may be) emotional needs, and that led to much anguish for me. I remember telling him more than once, "If you don't know what to do, what to say, or how to act, just do what you think a normal person would do." That didn't really help.
Two years later, sending him out of my life was both the most emotionally painful experience I had ever endured and was the most healthy step I could take. At the time I believed that pride was behind my decision to break up, but I now believe it was more than that. I was honoring my own truth. It was my self-survival and self-caring that I was honoring. I learned that I can indeed trust myself, and that I deserve true love, not a confusing, unsatisfying narcissistic type of "love." I'm not that desperate.
Anyway, the video below contains some keen and very interesting and accurate insights into the narcissist (aka an emotional vampire). According to Dr. Orloff, narcissists lack an emotional chip. .
I answered yes to four of the questions she read. Life is full of lessons. I'm happy to still be living and learning them.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qxTddQM-d08&feature=share&list=PL841ACBAB19254949
I had a frightening but revealing dream recently which the video below relates to. It's synchronicity that I found it soon after my dream.
I've had only a few scary dreams in my life, but this dream had me quite scared and desperate to get away. I dreamt that I suddenly realized that my former sweetheart, whom I was visiting, was a vampire, and I learned I was the only one who didn't know it. In the dream I had the sense that he was the kind of person to suck the life out of anyone who cared for him. A couple of years ago I realized he is a narcissist. One evening, early in our affair, he had a lack of self-awareness -- or a slip of the tongue -- and freely shared with me that his ex-wife, who had studied psychology, diagnosed him as a narcissist, and he chuckled when he told me. I, naturally, thought she didn't understand him, but turns out she was correct. According to Dr. Orloff in the video below, narcissists lack an emotional chip. My guy often professed to being confused about figuring out how to satisfy another person's (or mine, as the case may be) emotional needs, and that led to much anguish for me. I remember telling him more than once, "If you don't know what to do, what to say, or how to act, just do what you think a normal person would do." That didn't really help.
Two years later, sending him out of my life was both the most emotionally painful experience I had ever endured and was the most healthy step I could take. At the time I believed that pride was behind my decision to break up, but I now believe it was more than that. I was honoring my own truth. It was my self-survival and self-caring that I was honoring. I learned that I can indeed trust myself, and that I deserve true love, not a confusing, unsatisfying narcissistic type of "love." I'm not that desperate.
Anyway, the video below contains some keen and very interesting and accurate insights into the narcissist (aka an emotional vampire). According to Dr. Orloff, narcissists lack an emotional chip. .
I answered yes to four of the questions she read. Life is full of lessons. I'm happy to still be living and learning them.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qxTddQM-d08&feature=share&list=PL841ACBAB19254949
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